How to Shut-up Your Judge

I find it extremely hard to not judge myself and other people. I once tried to go a week without judgement. I lasted about 10 minutes. What makes us so ready to judge? I know for myself that when I am feeling insecure I am much more apt to judge.

It all starts with me. If I am feeling good about me, I have no need to judge. Most of my judgements are not positive. I find myself thinking, "oh that person is too loud," "that person has too big a ego." And the thing that scares me is that I do believe that we are mirrors of each other.

I can't like or dislike someone unless I like or dislike something about them that is in me. This means that if I dislike something about someone, I have that trait in myself that I dislike.

So, how do we stop our judge? I found that I have to focus on building up my self-esteem. I have to know how wonderful I am. If I feel good about myself it is much easier for me to feel good about others. So these are some things you can do to build your self-esteem.

1. Start a Victory Log for yourself. Each and every day write down in your Victory Log those accomplishments of the day.

2. Like in the mirror each day when you first get and up and again when you go to bed, and say, "I love (your name) actually has you are.

3. Laugh at your mistakes.

4. Bless the person who is bothering you and make a list of all his.her good qualities.

5. Remember you are in control of your emotions, and no one can bother you unless you allow him/her to do so.

6. Remember you can only control yourself.

Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
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