Permanent Record

From elementary school to high school, the threat that scared me more than any other was the PERMANENT RECORD. Our teachers warned us that if we did not behave, our misbehavior would be put on our PERMANENT RECORD. Even more terrifying was that
my PERMANENT RECORD followed me everywhere.

Recently I went into the Records Department of my employer and asked to see MY PERMANENT RECORD." They looked at me as if I was crazy. I am not sure at all where my PERMANENT RECORD stopped. Was it in high school? Was it in college?

I thought that my PERMANENT RECORD was a large chart with JANA RUTH'S PERMANENT RECORD written on the top with everything I had ever done wrong written on it. I thought that probably my PERMANENT RECORD was just for school, but I wasn't sure. I hoped so, because during school I never misbehaved, but at home, that at times was a different story.

How did my PERMANENT RECORD get transferred from one teacher to another? I figured out that at the end of the year, under armed guards the records were transferred from your last teacher to the next. It had to be done during the cover of darkness and everyone had to wear gloves. There were only two people at one time that knew what your PERMANENT RECORD contained. Your last teacher and the next teacher.

We all knew kids that must have very bad PERMANENT RECORDS. They were always getting in trouble. And we all knew that any future for them was void. No college would take them, and forget getting a job, and for sure it won't be a good job. Many times I thought that maybe my thoughts might even make my PERMANENT RECORD. So I tried to even watch my thoughts.

Now I am sure teachers don't have the PERMANENT RECORD to threaten kids with. I think I most have lived in the good old days, because not only did we have the threat of the PERMANENT RECORD. We, also, had the atomic bomb that might drop on our heads. It is very lucky that at least we had DUCK AND COVER.

Jana Ruth
Author of "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
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How to Shut-up Your Judge

I find it extremely hard to not judge myself and other people. I once tried to go a week without judgement. I lasted about 10 minutes. What makes us so ready to judge? I know for myself that when I am feeling insecure I am much more apt to judge.

It all starts with me. If I am feeling good about me, I have no need to judge. Most of my judgements are not positive. I find myself thinking, "oh that person is too loud," "that person has too big a ego." And the thing that scares me is that I do believe that we are mirrors of each other.

I can't like or dislike someone unless I like or dislike something about them that is in me. This means that if I dislike something about someone, I have that trait in myself that I dislike.

So, how do we stop our judge? I found that I have to focus on building up my self-esteem. I have to know how wonderful I am. If I feel good about myself it is much easier for me to feel good about others. So these are some things you can do to build your self-esteem.

1. Start a Victory Log for yourself. Each and every day write down in your Victory Log those accomplishments of the day.

2. Like in the mirror each day when you first get and up and again when you go to bed, and say, "I love (your name) actually has you are.

3. Laugh at your mistakes.

4. Bless the person who is bothering you and make a list of all his.her good qualities.

5. Remember you are in control of your emotions, and no one can bother you unless you allow him/her to do so.

6. Remember you can only control yourself.

Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
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